My Dead Husband Still Sleeps With Me Every Night

Confession by Min

This confession is about my sister who has since cut ties with the family. My sister lost her husband about five years ago; they have been married for twenty over years. Their eldest daughter is already twenty two, so I think their marriage lasted about twenty five, twenty six years. We didn’t think there was anything unusual about his passing. He died at a relatively young age of 47. Heart failure. 

He loved my sister very much and my sister loved him too. Their marriage was very smooth, besides the occasional worries about financial matters, he was solid husband material. Weekends were for the family. On weekdays he worked shifts at the shipyard. If he was doing anything on the side, none of us had any clue. He was always polite and respectful to my parents. We all loved him. 

But I think there should be a limit to love. 

My sister was of course distraught after his passing and would pine for him. Initially we didn’t take her comments too seriously when she said that ‘Abang’ - her husband - came to visit her at night. We thought it was just part of the grieving process, but this went on for many months. Everything else about her seemed fine, just that she was insistent her husband would visit her every night and they would make love. She described him as being “more powerful” but gentle. Sometimes she would even get into graphical details which left all of us very uncomfortable. My sister never spoke this way before. She even started removing her hijab and strayed away from God. Of course, we were worried about her mental health. I even told her that if she had met someone new and wanted to explore a new relationship, I was sure her children and the family would understand and support it, but how she was behaving was not proper. We told her to pray and return closer to God, but she got really furious and told us to mind our own business.

For the most part, since she was on the whole managing and living well, we left her to her own. It was only about a year plus later when her daughter let slip that her mum - my sister - had been pregnant thrice and each ended in a miscarriage during the end of second trimester, that the family started a full blown intervention. Through a family friend, we managed to call upon the help of an Ustadz.

That’s when it was confirmed that my sister’s sighting of her dead husband was not psychological. There was indeed a spiritual manifestation of an entity that was present. However the Ustadz said that it was not her husband; this entity was in fact created or summoned by a Dukun who her husband had approached for blessings and spiritual help. Through the proxy of this entity taking on the appearance of my sister’s ex-husband, the Dukun had astral traveled to my sister to perform the role of her husband.

When asked about the miscarriage, the Ustadz told us that this entity doing the Dukun’s bidding required payment, and that payment came at the price of a human life force.

Any cleansing to be done would require my sister’s cooperation but each attempt to visit her or to bring her over to my parents’ place was met with violent aggression. Eventually we just relented and let her continue to live her life. All things considered, my sister is eating well, living well, and living a “normal” life. We are worried about her, but right now it’s out of our hands. We can only pray for her and may God forgive her. We believe she’s innocent, naive even, and that’s why she’s easily manipulated. It’s all in God’s hands now.

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